The “Boy Interrupted” is a documentary film which will appear on 3 August at 9 p.m. only on HBO. The movie tells us a story about the death of a 15-year old Evan, who is suffered from bipolar disorder and jumped from his bedroom window in New York City, and committed suicide. By his death, we learn that how dark moods made people to committee some thing wrong and tragic.
This movie asks a lot of vital questions to people of all class and also through light on the discussion, that why we feel ashamed in our society about our mental illness? To prevent people from committing suicide is a great challenge, and there is no other way to stop them from committing suicide except providing them education and physiological treatment.
The movie also reveals the story of a mother, who hardly treats her son’s bipolar mental disorder, but such attitude leads her towards a great tragedy and it always happen in the life of children with frightened parents in real situation. This problem also crosses in any family at place of world and the situation became much worse in uneducated parents.
If you are among such a mother, who is experiencing the same situation, with your child due to his some mental complexities and illness, then you should watch this movie in order to learn, what are the signs of this condition and how can you cope with such attitude of your child.
Because in any case of ailment of your child that leads him towards tragic end like, Evan people always come to conclude that there must be some fault in parents, and we are no different from anyone, so we did not torture our child.
Boy Interrupted
Boy Interrupted
August 4th, 2009 at 2:22 pm
To The Perry Family,
I watched the documentary and must say it was a heart-wrenching experience to see what your family endured. My God please know that you had a most beautiful child whom for whatever reason had to come to this world with such a horrible disease. I do believe for all that watched as well as myself this story of yours will truly be an eye-opener for many. I want you to know that I Prayed for Evan so much last night, cause I truly felt like I knew him. I also believe that God is truly embracing Evan always comforting him from the torture he himself endured. My love and prayers to your family and always to the adorable Evan.
August 6th, 2009 at 6:07 am
A friend of mine who is now 62, and who has suffered from bipolar disorder that went undiagnosed until about 10 years ago, recommended this amazingly brave documentary. No doubt that loving, caring and doing everything right by that lovely boy, couldn’t preclude the inevitable. My ex, who was bipolar, stopped taking his meds last Aug, he died on Nov 17 of 08. I like to think that he is free, that his suffering is done. What’s odd is you truly want to believe that they do get better as the years go by, but in some cases that’s just not true. There is a perfect suffering, one that I don’t think any of us can really appreciate or understand. I think came as close as possible to capturing that beautifully. I know the happiest times of my life where when Joe was happy, but most of the time, sometimes for years there was no happiness. It’s a tricky condition, and each person is so truly unique and I can’t see how any of us could try so hard and not get the big pay off which is normal, happy, self assured, simple lives for our loved ones. I will die confused and sad, but oddly I wouldn’t change a thing if I could go back in time. Perhaps it’s that magnificent madness that draws and repels us to these complicated people.
I am so sorry for your loss, but I do think you have opened a door for others to see what can be accomplished and if the worst happens that you will come out the other side. Evan would have been an amazing adult, with the good, the bad, his sureness, and his uncertainties – and his bipolarity, but with his illness he didn’t realize that while he was unique so are all of us, bipolar, not bipolar, stable and unstable. You shared a family’s story and a multi- generational illness, one where you need to be vigilant if bipolarity and depression are in the family, it’s very likely that it can be passed on. I know I will never forget Evan, or his story. He was special, and now he will help others to understand a very difficult journey for everyone involved with a bipolar loved one.
Thank you.
August 6th, 2009 at 5:14 pm
To Mr. & Mrs.Perry,
I just finished watching this documentary about your son. Now I am 16 years old and have experienced and is experiencing what Evan had gone through since I was 9 years old, and I must say you disgust me. Now I am able to control my constant depression, not as well as I have when I was younger. It is a non-chemical treatment. Only the person them self can take of it and cure it, lithium?? You disgusting rich family needs to open your eyes to reality, you lacked love, simple real love, love that you cannot buy. You spineless imbeciles sent him to a psychiatrist, in which if they don’t open up to you, they will only be offended and grow even more depressed when you send them there, in their mind they assume that you have given up on him, you’re done trying and that you’re just tired. Well guess what, you were.
There was probably a million things happening in his privet life that he didn’t share with you, mainly because he’s a teenage boy, his best friend isn’t going to mom or dad. Though you neglected to think, you wanted him to be you, or what you planned, and after 15 years of trying you begin to get tired. It happens.
You see, people that are going through what even went through are just trapped in an endless labyrinth, that in some cases, we think the end to it is death. I thought that once, but I found something that kept me searching, writing, and now I am writing a book and plan to go to college to major in literature or the analization of literature because you see I analize things, I may just become a psychiatrist because I can read people pretty well, and I’ve actually experienced what most people have gone through, and I have read both of you and you are the typical New York City family, rich and selfish (I live in Albany so I know NYC as it is). You didn’t even obey his death whishes! In fact you pretty much mocked him so for that, I loathe you, you two did not deserve to have a son who was real. Because he was real, that’s why it happens, he saw that you were fake, he saw that his uptight prep school friends were fake.
You’re fooling people with this documentary you scavengers had allowed to exploit your sons suicide, so please if you owe anything to your son, it is this, take it off the air, at least obey one thing he had asked.
if this family does not come across this, please, someone email with a way I can get in contact with this family. The world needs to know the truth. Not the money craving hbo-land story.
August 7th, 2009 at 6:30 am
I would just like to say I really identified with Eavn in watching this documentary. I too, was hospitalized at 4 winds(at 16). At age 8 I threatened suicide. I really feel for this kid. and for the parents. What a horrible thing for the last words from your son to be”I hate you”. At least he’s not suffering now. I have bipolar 2 and it is hell. It’s scary. really frighteningly scary. when the sadness isn’t ever-present- the intense fear sets in. I know of a few people in and around my family that have attempted suicide. I have tried, very close to succeeding. I am 25 now. I just hope that whereever Evan is- he is at peace… I really would like to talk to his mom… if at all possible..?
August 7th, 2009 at 10:29 pm
To Carli: You are a mean judgment person. Are you a parent? I think not. Stop passing judgment and stick with fixing YOU. You are clueless!!!!!!!!
August 7th, 2009 at 10:33 pm
To the Perry family:
Coming from a family that has dealt with the loss of loved ones from suicide my prayers are with you. Thank you for your film. For letting others know your son and for giving us the insight that may help save a life.
Much prayers…a mother
August 7th, 2009 at 10:38 pm
To the Perry family:
My prayers are with you. My family has had to deal with the loss of a loved one on three occasions to suicide. Time does not heal all wounds. Thank you for letting us get to know Evan and for providing us with insight and information that may save a life. Evan was a gift! God bless.
From a MOM
August 8th, 2009 at 12:50 am
To the Perry family, I want to start by saying how very sorry I am for the loss of your beautiful boy.I think I watched the documentary 6 times since it came out.I am 45 and my father commited suicide when I was 16. I came home from school and found him hanging from the rafters of the attic. I cant believe I just typed this in.I still after all this time have not come to grips with it.I have 2 boys.One is 23 and the youngest is 15. It was excrutiating to lose my father to suicide Icannot fathom what it would be like to lose a child over this horrible disease.Thankyou for your bravery and your courage to share your very personal story.I do believe it will open a door and show people it is nothing to be ashamed of. When my father died in 1980 it was considered tabu.Noone wanted to talk about it.I am glad you brought this to the forefront because people need to realize this is a valid disease and not something to be swept under the rug.
August 8th, 2009 at 6:08 am
Dear Perry Family,
Thank you for summoning the courage to share your tragic and compelling story. It was apparent to me that Evan’s suffering was far beyond the imagination of anyone who is not so affected and his subsequent death was without question inevitable. His story, your story illuminates the critical and acute need for vast improvements in the treatment of victims who suffer mentally, physically and socially; most for a lifetime.
My family of origin is also plagued with mental illness ranging from Depression to Paranoid Schizophrenia. Each of my fathers six siblings had at least one child with Schizophrenia including an older brother of mine; the disease has also struck one of my daughters. Although she is much more healthy than any of the other family members with whom she shares this battle, her own rigid perspective of right and wrong reminds me of Evan’s sense of justice leaving little room for error within themselves. Sometimes I think that the symptoms are so extremely distracting they require one maintain a tightly controlled perspective in order to simply function. How long can anyone expect these gentle, creative and loving souls to, in every minute of they’re lives carry such a burden? Evan was loved and received better care than most. You were present, you did not fail him and you can be proud of how hard he tried to live.
I will remember Evan and I will remember you. Thank you again.
My deepest condolences with warm regards,
Therese
August 9th, 2009 at 10:51 am
I am 51 now and have suffered from Bi polar, panic attacks and chronic insomnia, I think I had this at a very early age. In those days I was just a BAD kid, I hated to be touched and hugged and no one could pick me up as a child. I would stay very stiff until they put me down. I did some pretty awful things as a kid and wish I could have been a better person, but I was horrible.I drank and used drugs for many many years, I have no idea how I lived through it all. I was never happy and to this day I am still never happy. My mother took me to Doctors who just said BAD KID LOL wow that was WAY back. I started drinking and doing drugs at 11, I have been told that I was self medicating and masking the problems I had. I did that till I was 34, I was able to function that way. My heart goes out to the family I just don’t know if I could take the loss of my daughter, that would send me over the edge, the edge I am on every day. Anyone who thinks the parents didn’t do all they could are DEAD WRONG… I am not a big fan of therapy but if you want the drugs you have to go. Sometimes they don’t even help. As I was watching this the tears were just pouring from my eyes, I couldn’t stop them. I know what it is like to live like that. This story reminded me of the book on Nancy Spungen, my mother read that book and knew what her family had went through, because she went through it with me. I don’t know if I would call my self lucky that I made it, but I am living. I don’t go out of my house very much. Now my daughter keeps me alive because she would not make it in this would without me. So she tells me at least once a week. Take care everyone and if you even suspect there is something wrong with your child get them to a Dr now. My daughter has panic attacks and had anger issues all through school, she went to therapy once a week and was on medication too.
Denise
August 9th, 2009 at 10:32 pm
I am very concerned. Although we all agree that this disease is profound & its intensity drives us/one’s self to consider the only inevitable end/relief. Has anyone asked…about the film itself….why wasn’t Evan’s wishes considered?
He didn’t want York Prep to know how/why he died,however, now I’m sure that everyone attending now and at Evan’s time (including staff, friends & family of staff and students) have seen intimate details of Evan’s death. This is not what he wanted.
Only family at the funeral? Not only was more than family in attendance, but the entire world as long as they care to tune in to HBO.
I feel for the family, I do….but I am more concerned with Evan. He is who I empathize and symthathize with. That distant look on someone’s face when they’re “not there”…is all too familiar to me. I am sad for The Perry’s and sad for Evan. I am a bit worried that his death is going to be over “pop-ed” rather what he orchestrated it to be. Nothing is more intimate in life than how one plans their own death, I mourn Evan’s design…as the only ones who could’ve assited him in achieving it, did not….(some of it that is).
But I am greatful that the dark, graphic, specifics of his death were not televised or discussed in the film.
August 9th, 2009 at 10:44 pm
My deepest regards to the family. Has to be rough on a person, straight up. Pray thst the dawg is in heaven, R.I.P. Gangsta
August 9th, 2009 at 11:55 pm
To Carli,
Do you hear yourself? Honestly? Do you think you have a handle on your condition? As parents we listen to our kids, we inquire as to how they are and we do the best we can. Parents are not mindreaders and children are not born with an owner’s manuel. Parents feel. Do you? Do you think that your feelings and your opinions are the only right ones? If only the rest of the world had all of the answers as you think you do. My prayer for you is that you truly DO get the help you need and that you do not lose the wrestle with you own demons.
August 10th, 2009 at 12:01 am
Carli- Two things you might spend your time on as opposed to lashing your in uncontrollable anger; 1. Your spelling. 2. Your own treatment. Take it from a 40 year old who made it through and is medication free though still wacky as all get out sometimes, it’s not about love, rich or poor, responsibility (individual or that of the parents) or any other ONE thing. It’s chemical and societal and always hard for everyone . Practice the love you preach or you will always be miserable.
August 10th, 2009 at 12:16 am
I AM ONLY 18 AND I JUST WATCHED TH HBO DOCUMENTARY O THIS KID EVAN PERRY. IT MKES ME REAL SAD TO KOW THAT A CHILD OF HIS AGE WHO WOULD HAVE BEEN OLDER HAN ME IF HE WAS STILL LIVING WOULD KILL HIMSELF. IT TOUCHED ME TO MY HEAR AND IF I KNEW THAT FAMILY I WOULD SEND THEM MY CONDOLENCES. I CRIED WATCHING THIS BCUASE I COULD NEVER THINK OF SOMEONE IN MY FAMILY WANTING TO KILL THEMSELVES. ITS SADTHAT HE FELT THAT HE WOULD E LOVED MORE DEAD. THOSE PLAYS THAT HE WROTE ABOUT DYING WERE FANTASTIC BUT NOT FOR A CHILD OF HIS ILLNESS. I WISH THAT I COULD STEP BACK INTO THAT TIME AND TELL HIM THAT LIFE IS HARD NO MATTER WHO YO ARE, AND DYING IS TAKING THE EASY WAY OUT. YOU NEED TO BE STRONG NOT ONLY FOR YOURSELF BUT FOR THE PEOPLE THAT LOVEYOU MOST. ITS NOT ONLY GOING TO AFFECT YOU IF YOU DIE, BUT ITS GOIN TO AFFECT THE ONES WHO LOVE YOU MOST.
THANK YOU
KATROYA PARSON
August 10th, 2009 at 12:35 am
I have struggled with depression my whole life, i have been to shrinks w/ my parents since i was seven. I attempted suicide 4 times, i droped out of school for a while to get my life together. I saw this docu today and was shocked that his parents would use his death as a money maker and to advance their careers. They should have respected his wishes; he said he only wanted family at the funeral but they had a film crew and kids from school, and also he said he wanted to be forgotten and then they made monuments and an hbo documentary
August 10th, 2009 at 3:35 am
Damn, feel sorry for the nigger. I was wondering if his sexy mama is available.
August 10th, 2009 at 8:31 am
i happened to hear the title of this documentry somewhere didnt remember what it was about and i happened to record it and happened to watch it tonight and by the end of it i was crying really hard and still am. I was actuialy saying god no god no cause its not like a movie something bad happens and you know its fiction its real. What i need is to tell this family that you can make his death mean something set something in motion to reach out.And I know this film has done that I do. There is a choice and there is a way out and right now there is people and kids and real lifes that don’t know that life is such a mircle. What i felt like i needed to do the whole time watching this was reach through the screen and say I know you don’t want to deal with this because thats where your fear is. And thats where so many kids fear is . I wanted to tell this boy this person that with no shadow there wouldnt be light .I wanted to tell him yes your hurt I know Its ok to just cry and be let it out why wasnt couldnt he just let it out? I wanted to tell this boy that he wasnt alone that every single person has pain and ups and downs and he wasnt just someones problem he was someones joy. He found the only real cerinty was death and the only true way for him to get respect was to just say bye. And i need to tell people that this shouldnt be ignored it should be spoken about this should help others . theres so much i could go on to say but i wont my prayers to this family and every person that feels that they are in a hole and there isnt a way out. “We can forgive a child who is afriad of the dark.But what is a tragity is when a man is afriad of the light.” God bless.
btw im kristen I live in myrtle beach south carolina im 15 I have a older brother that is serverly mentaly ill but i also have faith in the human race.
August 10th, 2009 at 1:30 pm
To Carli,
You’re going to college to study literature? Do you plan to have a limited mastery of the english language before then? You write at an elementary school level. I’m embarassed for you.
August 10th, 2009 at 1:30 pm
Wow, some of you people have no clue as to what it’s like. I fully blame the parents for their son’s suicide. The story of the uncle who committed suicide was the initial thought placed inside Evan’s head. Then taking the child to treat this idea implanted by the parents, then forced away from the family in rehabilitation. Evan must of felt so out of place that his only option was to commit suicide. I’ve been through depression and most of it is self-inflicted. That’s self-conflict, but add some external-conflict and you have “Boy Interrupted.”
August 10th, 2009 at 4:59 pm
I just happened to catch this movie after an all nighter. First things, dag, this is some real ish. Second, I couldnt stop comparing myself to Evan the whole movie, and I feel like he was me and Im him. This movie just makes me wanna kill myself. For real. Lastly, Carli, if I ever f*ckin see you Im takin you with me you son of a wh*re.
August 11th, 2009 at 12:29 am
some souls just come into this world when they aren’t ready. it wasn’t the perry’s family’s fault. it wasn’t anybody’s fault. it wasn’t even Evan himself. Yes he was too young to die, Yes he had an illness. But at least, after his 15years of life, he can look upon you from above and smile. Because now he is finally at peace and with all his ancestors. god bless the perry family and may evan rest in peace.
August 12th, 2009 at 2:40 am
After watching this movie, I can only say that what I took from it was the sense of a family, (let me clarify….of PARENTS), who used their child’s “illness” as some kind of sick, twisted sort of status symbol.
“You think YOU’VE got problems….Well….MY son threatens to kill himself. Here…I’ll show you PICTURES! I’ll even show you VIDEO TAPE!”
What I took from this movie was that it was never about Evan. Ever. He was only a minor character, a bit Player. And that is not only tragic, it’s nauseating.
The first psychiatrist Evan was burdened with? THAT guy should have his license revoked. He’s a quack. His first order of business after encountering something he wasn’t familiar with….HUMAN EMOTION….was to DOPE IT AWAY. And Evan’s parents were tripping over themselves to reach the same conclusion.
He needed your strength. You took the easy way out. “Cure” by way of intoxication. Hey….Mrs. Perry…..he wasn’t in “fugue state”….
HE WAS STONED! Your CHILD was STONED! And by way of some scary, SCARY drugs….all while he was still a baby.
People better GET with the program, or more children will be LOST, just like Evan.
It’s a scientifically proven FACT that “anti-depressants” CAUSE depression , and that they CREATE suicidal thoughts, even amongst “normal” people who have NEVER contemplated suicide before in their lives. By trying to “medicate” the problem away….
You KILLED your son. Others have done the same, in disgustingly tragic numbers.
No matter, though….
You’ve got your fame and fortune now, and your very own HBO Original Movie to prove it.
And Evan has the funeral he BEGGED you not to give him, and the notoriety he PLEADED with you to spare him.
From one parent, (myself), to two others, (the Perry’s)…..
Bravo! Job WELL done.
Something tells me that YOU got EXACTLY what you wanted, one way or another. It may not have happened the way you WANTED it to, but hey….
You wanna make an omelette? You gotta break a few eggs. Right?
How do you sleep at night?
August 12th, 2009 at 2:54 am
I am so sorry to have to have read the post by Carli. Millions of people out there suffer from so many different afflictions. As judgemental as she was, I truly hope she does not go into the psychology field as she has suggested she may do. Possibly it was just a young 16 year old speaking and is unaware of the pain she has added by her words. Hopefully, maturity will help.
To Hart, Dana, Nick, Michael and Evan’s friends who appeared on the documentary, you were all genuine and I felt you pain. Our family has felt the loss of a family member to suicide. The pain is unlike any other. We will forever be part of a club that we had never wanted to join. And the dues are high. We don’t pay monthly or yearly dues, we pay dues for life. Daily dues ~ pain.
August 12th, 2009 at 4:18 am
I am sorry for the family- very sorry, and do not know the answers. Only GOd. I know I pray I do hwat is needed for my children to ba able to live as healthy as possible of a life in this world and within the walls of these bodies, interacting with other poeple. People and life are a difficult specimen. When I read the suicide letter, and saw that a movie was made- a deliberate contradiction to a reques, it mad me monder, perhaps he was in a struggle for idepndence and autonomy. It made me think and reflect on my own parenting. I know I and my children are strong willed intelligent children, and typically the parent being the authority figure, their will prevails. I have noted this before, and I will purposely let my child have her way in certain situtaions; especially when I sense it is of utmost importance.
I believe Carli has some valid points. Just as valid as everyone else here. Because the thoughts she expressed were not calm or relaxing thoughts does not make it a wrong one. In fact because it causes such reaction is why we should delve and think about it more. I thought them myself, as well as I thought the others.
The bottom line is this, that we should submit ourselves one onto another. And for us not to be so intent on always letting our pride and our intention and purpose prevail. WHen lovng one another, we have sometimes got to let others have their way. Especially when it comes to children. I am not saying to let them have wreckless permission; I am saying to give children valid choices and autonmomy. Especially if you are a strongwilled type of family. Blood is thick. If you are strongwilled, your child may very well be also.
August 12th, 2009 at 5:36 am
To Carli,
Drop Dead!
August 12th, 2009 at 1:23 pm
As I watched your film I had flashbacks and felt a sense of relief but yet again grief and disbelieve… Thru your pain and sorrow I knew I was not alone in my agony and fear. I am 38 mom with Bi-polar. I have been dealing with this demon all my life since I was 14. I was always the misunderstood child. Why I made it and how has been an endless battle. Life has been full of surprises. 9 years ago I gave birth to a wonderful son who has changed my life in ways anyone can’t imagine. He was a normal child until age 2. At first I thought his tantrums were a phase. However, as he got older these phases where never ending and got worse. When he was 4 I heard the words a mother should never have to hear, I want to die, I’m going to kill myself, I hate me, I hate life! It was overwhelming seing a child so sweet and loving transform into this demented child. There were alot of ups and downs with misdiagnoses, but it wasn’t until he was 5 when the bomd exploded. He was having bad episodes and was having as many as 50 meltdowns in one day. His moods swings were never ending. Just went I thought things couldn’t get any worse, they did…. My demond had found its way thru my son. He was DX. with Bi-polar. I was in disbelieve and hit rock bottom. I was devastated! Watching my son go thru this hell was not easy for me because I knew to well what it meant and how much pain he was in. I knew that Bi-polar was a death-trap. I had to face a lot of emotions all at once. I felt anger, hate, grief and guilt. I felt respondsable for my sons misery. Having to face my demonds face to face thru my son wasn’t easy. There were times when he would scream in agony and would pleade with me to please help him, save him… those were strong words for a 6 yrs old who at times wanted to die. The storm in his brain was too much for him to handle. Thru his pain somehow he was reaching out for help. But I knew that in order to save him I had to save myself so my journey began. I took all the negative in Bi-polar and somehow transformed it into positive. I started to come to terms with my demonds and took control of my life. I needed to somehow accept that bi-polar was part of me and become one! I wanted my life back even if it meant pain! I wanted my son! I learned that thru me, my son could be saved, he would learned thru me how to put his dragon to sleep and come to grips with it…. It has not been an easy battle but we have learned from each other and have become stronger than ever imagined. Its amazing what one as adult can learn from a child. He is 9 yrs old and very stable. All in all, everything is under control but, when I look back I see how far we have come and can’t help to wonder what if’s. He sometimes tells me mom there is a storm in my brain, and I tell him remember after the storm passes there is always calm, there is a light at the end of the tunnel… Things will get better, tomorrow will be a better day. For now we know the dragon is sleeping waiting to wake up…. as scary as it my sound, we are ready to put it back to sleep and maybe someday we can become goodfriends. But until my son learns how 2 could become one, I will be there to guide him step by step and take control of his life! The truth of the matter is that there is a reason for everything in life…. We all have a unique purpose and for Evan Scott and his family its clear…. Thru sharing your story, many of us out here know we are not alone!
Thank you for sharing your story. Please know that thru your pain and sorrow you will touch many and although you were not able to save him from himself, you will save many like him for years to come. I hope you know in your hearts that you did everything within your reach. But sadly, there are choices and actions that are not ours to make. He is at peace now and will never be forgotten!
August 15th, 2009 at 12:09 am
Im not sure how anyone feels about this but i wrote this shortly after watching the documentary, in a way i can feel his pain just not as bad. i feel like i know him, like he was a friend. I will pray for the Perry family and for Evan.
R.I.P Evan Scott Perry
Ther are no words to explain why
After years of talkin and plannin to die
You jumped.
Only if you wer to speak out, after fightinq like a solider
I know it must of been hard, you wer bipolar.
Rest in peace.. i dont even know you..
but i know what you felt i feel that too
So you found a way to end all the violence
The rest is silence….
Dedicated to Evan
August 15th, 2009 at 5:46 pm
All,
While some are quick to judge, please remember this world is not easy. In fact, this world is about learning and growing. While it is inevitable that we all have made mistakes, the gift within love drives not only forgiveness, but growth. Evan, like all of us, is part of this interconnected web of emotions that some might call the collective human spirit, and is one with the spiritual enlightenment of god. We should learn from Evan that fearing death is not healthy and believe me there is tons of love “on the other side” so have no fear; presenting this movie and responding as the family did is a strong commitment to telling Evan and that part of human psyche that is paranoid or depressed (within this collective spirit), that we’re sorry you (we) feel that way but we do love you, and believe me he knows. Once we learn to transcend the human body death cycle and shed are materialistic ways, we can start learning in a whole new transcendent light. May the pain we endure transform into the strong threads that hold our love together.
For those of you who feel unloved: please know this: I love you, as I love everything that this existence has brought us good and bad, and all that it encompasses; I encourage you to have the strength to realize and understand that was is buried within ourselves (the human soul) deep amongst any potential confusion is a glowing light of love. Love, my friend, comes in many shapes and sizes…keep growing, keep learning. Again, may the pain we endure transform into the strong threads that hold our love together.
Thank you for sharing…
God bless and Namaste
August 15th, 2009 at 6:45 pm
Watch-out for big brother protect younger brother which was depicted in Evan’s play about death
August 15th, 2009 at 6:48 pm
THE PROBLEM IS STIL PRESENT
August 17th, 2009 at 6:46 am
Evan Perry’s parents are nothing but punk ass bitches. They have the audacity to film this shit, and did not doing anything about it. They should have stop the damn medication. Another thing is that they should have prayed. Come to Jesus and asked Him to save Evan. Now Evan is burning in Hell. Way to go jerk-offs. BTW, I know that the family is going to split, so can I get Evan’s sexy mother’s phone number?
To Ferret: THANK YOU FOR CLARIFYING THE TRUTH. F–K THE PERRYS BITCH
August 17th, 2009 at 6:49 am
F–K THE PERRYS. DANA AND HART, KILL YOURSELF. MAN, KILL YOURSELF. BITCH, KILL YOURSELF.
August 17th, 2009 at 6:56 am
Carli, you are the shit, keep telling the truth. FUCK THE PERRYS BITCH
August 17th, 2009 at 4:04 pm
I watched the story of Evan and was saddened and enlighted. We are in family counseling for our 9 year daughter. This family saught help for Evan and he cried out for help in silence. I prayed for them and thank them for sharing Evan with all us. I know it is there hope to send a message to all of us with kids like Evan so they don’t end up like him. In watching this and them explaining bipolar it is not what we all think bipolar disorder is. Evan’s parents did not kill him, his disease did. Evan lived with demons all is life and you could always see the sadness in his eyes. I hope to be able to help our daughter and I hope for her to want to help her self, I am more determined to not give up our child because of Evan. Thank you to The Perry Family for sharing Evan with us. He was a beautiful child and may God be him and you always.
August 18th, 2009 at 2:07 pm
I have just watched Evan’s story for the second time. I decided to see what people were saying and stumbled upon this page…the comments left supporting the Perry family were beautiful…and then as I scroll down I have to read the ugliness that is Carli..and seriously girl..I know everyone keeps making comments but next time you go on a rant bring a Webster’s with you…you couldn’t have made your self sound anymore classless or uneducated…will you be getting this advanced degree at Burger or Clown college? Let’s see who else..Screw…Drama McGee…you should really be ashamed of yourselves and might I suggest some treatment for you both…only a sociopath would come on here and make a joke out of a families tragedy….I firmly believe in Karma and would pay good money to see you get your swift kick up the a**.
I truly believe the Perry’s have a deep and genuine love for their son…his disease was too powerful though…I myself have what one would consider the ideal lifestyle…an amazing husband, great family, awesome friends….but even with all of this love and support I sometimes feel that I’m not enjoying life as much as others…it’s then that I have to remember all of these amazing things in my current life and the exciting adventures I have ahead…I think Evan knew what he had in regards to love, it was his future that he couldn’t see.
Many blessings to is family and freinds…and to those twisted idiots that use this as an arena to display their immaturity…take it somewhere else…no one is interested in your innapropriate commentary…I assume that rings true in real life for if people actually paid attention to your antics you wouldn’t have to hide yourself behind a computer screen.
August 19th, 2009 at 1:25 am
carli and screw really suck! carli im happy to hear your doing fine but please dont assume that what works for you and your dieseas will work for all. one of the first things you read when you google bipolar is that its different for everyone you should remember that and stop being so fucking judgemental. both my brothers suffer from my bipolar, the eldest from the one evean suffered form the the youngest from the manic kind. i think its highly hypocritical of you to assume that their family didnt have enough love. do you have children? do you know how hard it is love a person so sick? you may only know how it is to be sick; but watching someone so upset every day and not being able to do much or if anything, is horrible, one of the worse things ever. so i think you should take your ridiculas statment and just fucking shove it up your ass!!!
to the people that object to them film being made. i think your wrong this film needed to be made, so many people dont understand what biopolar is or how a person could want to kill themselves. this film shed alot of needed light to the situation that so many family and friends face. their life was about making films, about understanding the world through film. evan was even interested in it. this was obvisouly not about the money but as a way to understand and bring to life something their family was and will always be effected by.
about the funeral; funerals are not for the dead they are for the living. for people that are left behind to go and start the mourning process and hopefully find peace and colsuer. his friends had just as much right to be there as any one from his family. did they not love him, did they not grow with him, did they not expence life with him? then do they not deserve a chance to say goodbye. i think its discusting that people can write how dare them left people that loved him say goodbye;which is essentaily what your saying when you get upset that his friends were there. with the taping once again they are film makers it what they do. this was not for money they obviuosly had money this was for education.
for the perry family: thankyou for opening up your lives and son to us. i learned alot from it. it makes me see my brothers diesease and my mother in another light. thank you for that!
August 19th, 2009 at 5:43 am
Georgina, BITE ME
August 19th, 2009 at 7:07 am
HOW DARE U PPL GET MAD AT CARLI FOR SPEAKING THE TRUTH. I SUFFER FROM DEPRESSION AND IF I DECIDED TO KILL MYSELF I DON’T WANT MY FAMILY EXPLOITING MY SUICIDE! I FEEL SO SORRY FOR EVAN. IT IS OBVIOUS HIS PARENTS NEVER LISTENED TO HIM! THEY WERE SELFISH ENOUGH TO MAKE THIS DOCUMENTARY! HOW COULD U IGNORE UR CHILDS LAST WISHES? HOW COULD U SHARE SOMETHING SO PRIVATE WITH SO MANY STRANGERS? HOW COULD U NOT CARE?! I THINK HIS PARENTS ARE DISGUSTING HUMAN BEINGS.
August 20th, 2009 at 2:38 am
I don’t think Evan had a disease. He saw the world for what it truly is from the beginning of his life. What’s more insane? Seeing and acknowledging the shallowness in people and their short comings or having blind faith that people are somehow “at peace” when they die? Where’s the proof? When you hold yourself to a high standard and you are forced to live among those who do not, the world can be a pretty crappy place full of hurt feelings and profound dissapointment.
I think Psychiatry has it backwards. You have to be “crazy” (and by that I mean delusional) to ignore the facts (people will disappoint you, they will lie to you and hurt you…it’s inevitable) and wake up each morning with a big stupid smile on your face. The more honest you are with yourself and the more intelligent you are, the more likely you will be dissatisfied with life. Ignorance is bliss. Case in point: To tell yourself and others that someone is “at peace” or in a “better place” after they die offers hollow comfort to me. There simply is no verifiable proof that this is the case. It’s just what people say to make themselves feel better. When you’re smart enough to see that, death has a different meaning.
When Evan’s parents can’t even find it in their hearts to honour his dying wishes, I can’t help but wonder what other wishes of his were ignored while he was alive. Sending an obviously intelligent but very unhappy young person away from the family would only serve to make him feel more isolated and learn quickly what the “right” answers and behaviours were to be left alone. It forced his honesty (about how he was really feeling) underground. If he couldn’t live the way he wanted to, he became more intent on dying the way he wanted to. It’s sad, but I think I “get it”.
I have no doubt that Evan’s parents experienced a sense of loss over their son’s death, but they are most likely incapable to experience emotion with the same intensity Evan would have and good for them. It’s the emotionally numb who are cut out to live in this world. It’s no place for a sensitive and loving soul.
August 20th, 2009 at 5:30 am
EVAN IS IN HELL, POINT BLANK
August 20th, 2009 at 5:41 am
HART AND DANA, KILL YOURSELVES TWO TIMES. I WISH I WAS EVAN, I WILL LEAVE THE FAMILY. HART AND DANA, KILL YOURSELF.
August 20th, 2009 at 9:29 pm
Did Evan killed himself because he killed Jon Benet Ramsay, police wants to know.
August 21st, 2009 at 9:10 pm
i am sorry for your loss but i don’t think your son would have wanted you do film a story about his death its private thing lots of familys have goin through loss like yours but i don’t see them going out making a film about thier love ones death your not the only ones out there unless you knew that your son wanted you to tell people his story then thats what he wanted. i hope that you have respected your sons wishes
i’m sorry for your loss best wishes but just think about it.
August 22nd, 2009 at 6:38 am
Dana should have cheated on Sweet Jones because Hart is a rookie
August 22nd, 2009 at 6:26 pm
NO ONE deserves to go through that type of pain losing someone who commits suicide or just losing them in general it is VERY hard i’ve had friends who killed themselfs and family who just died, a brother who tried committing suicide, and i almost committed suicide before too! I didn’t cut my wrist because my grandmother stopped me saying if your going to do it you have to kill me first because i’m not losing a daughter and grand daughter in the same day or at all. when my dad met my mother my grandmother didn’t like my mom but then years passed after they married and 3 kids she went loving her like a daughter. after that she helped me out i called her everynight and day before and after school then suddenly months later i lost her same year close to them both then again i tried killing myself but instead cut myself on my arms and burned my arms i got the scars to prove it! but they remind me how i couldn’t do it because of what my grandma said…i love you grandma and mom RIP! Anyways i can’t imagine someone wanting to with bipolar and whatever else added to it it would be ALOT harder as shown on the movie boy interrupted is just a proven fact when it comes down to it you can get them help and try being there the best you can as the parents ALWAYS were but in the end the kid will do it if they really got it far set deep in their minds. I feel really SAD for that family they might be rich and felt like giving up and said they were tired but they never did give up so NO ONE SHOULD RUN THEIR MOUTHS THEY DONE THE BEST FOR THAT BOY!!!!!!!!!!!! anyone who has objections to what i just said of the family trying their best well FUCK OFF it is NOT the parents FAULTS it is the kids fault!! But RIP evan perry and god rest your soul kiddo. and for the parents i’m sorry about you losing your son it never gets worser than what you feel and denial about it is not the way to go just know it happend and live days one at a time i used to think positive that my mother didn’t die on me at age 13 that she just left us but that would never be the truth. so god bless the family too and your kind hearts.
August 23rd, 2009 at 2:37 pm
In Feb. of 2004 my brother Tasi committed suicide. When I watched the beautiful documentary made by Evan’s family, I was overwhelmed with sadness and awe. The way their mourning was expresses is exactly the way it is when a loved one has taken their own life. The film that Evan made about the boy who wakes up in a world with now color or sound was amazing. Thank you for sharing his life and art with the world. I am so sorry for your great loss.
August 24th, 2009 at 3:28 am
I have just watched Evan’s story for the second time. I decided to see what people were saying and stumbled upon this page…the comments left supporting the Perry family were beautiful…and then as I scroll down I have to read the ugliness that is Carli..and seriously girl..I know everyone keeps making comments but next time you go on a rant bring a Webster’s with you…you couldn’t have made your self sound anymore classless or uneducated…will you be getting this advanced degree at Burger or Clown college? Let’s see who else..Screw…Drama McGee…you should really be ashamed of yourselves and might I suggest some treatment for you both…only a sociopath would come on here and make a joke out of a families tragedy….I firmly believe in Karma and would pay good money to see you get your swift kick up the a**.
THIS BITCH TALKED ABOUT MY A–. F–K YOU JENN, F–K YOU, F–K YOURSELF, YOU DONT KNOW ME,
August 24th, 2009 at 3:29 am
OK JENN, MY BAD ON THE SUICIDE PART, BUT STILL F–K YOU
August 24th, 2009 at 3:47 am
jenn, i apologize, forgive me. you are right and i was wrong. i dont like karma. so, i am sorry for disrespecting you and the family
August 27th, 2009 at 5:38 am
I wanna do Evan’s mother like my music, all I wanna do is screw
August 27th, 2009 at 11:18 pm
This film opened my mother’s eyes and helped her understand where I was coming from. I am 20 years old, and have suffered from this illness since the sixth grade. Anyone with this disorder cannot control how or what they feel… I can’t find the perfect words to say that to someone in Evan’s position just can’t find the right amount of hope to continue. Just as he was weighing his reasons for living… he was weighing his hope that things would get better. I have been there on several occasions, and come close to ending it for the reasons he wrote of. The only thing that stopped me was the hope my family would REALLY see what I was going through, and some how help me. This film gave me more hope for not only my family-but anyone else i know- to understand me. And for that I thank you Perry family… for your braveness, and willingness to show how the REAL bipolar disorder is- not the over the top hollywood version.
August 27th, 2009 at 11:32 pm
mrs.perry
out of questioining but did u ever tell evan urself dat u wanted him to live? if not dat problemly wouldve made a diffrence i know myself its hard to live wit disorder but wen ur parents make u g2 doctors to tlk to it makes u feel like a burden and wen u dont hear ur parents tel u they want u to live it makes u comprise everything but i know u raised ur son well and i know ur still feelin pain from his lost.
August 29th, 2009 at 4:10 am
I don’t believe this documentary was made for money, I think it was a way for Evan’s family to reach out and show other parents that they are not alone. It is also to remember Evan and to keep him alive in spirit. I’m not a parent or someone struggling with bi-polar disorder. I’m just a 19 year old girl who was incredibly touched by this documentary. I really feel like I knew him. Rest in peace Evan, no one will ever understand the pain you went through but we are happier you are in a better place now. You will never be forgotten.
P.S Carli, living in Albany doesn’t mean you know anything about New York City or the people in it, being that I live in NYC I felt the need to tell you that.
August 29th, 2009 at 9:55 pm
Katie, sweetheart, Evan is in hell. His soul is in eternal damnation.
August 30th, 2009 at 11:31 am
I just watched …. I find it hard to imagine struggling with mental illness while my narcissistic, self centered “parents” film every minute of my life.
RIP young man.
August 30th, 2009 at 12:50 pm
To all of you who are making ridiculous comments about this child and his family, you obviously are judgemental and think that you can impose your beliefs on others.
To say this child is in Hell is not only your religous belief, but your need to feel that it is ok to preach to others.
His family are not at fault. Obviously, you do not have any type of grasp on this situation.
To speak lewdly about his mother is awful. You are the ones who make people in these circumstances blame themselves.
It is hard to know how to help. Believe me, I know.
I do not understand how someone can judge these parents without having lived through this experience.
Evan was a beautiful child stuck in a dark world, because of this horrible illness.
His parents did all they could.
Why should it matter about their economic status? Are you jealous of them? I think so.
Perhaps Evan did not want people to know how he died, this family chose to do this film in an effort to show the reality of this disease and perhaps help someone along the way.
I thought it showed an example of a beautiful child who was lost in the reality of his illness.
God Bless Evan and his family.
August 30th, 2009 at 1:11 pm
Mr. And Mrs. Perry, I want to thankyou for the courage to open up your personal lives for us to see what you had to endure as parents of a bipolar 2 child. I thought that Evan was an exceptional and gifted young man who in his short life did great things. Although he had struggled with his illness, he had a beautiful mind. Even though he died tragically, I know it wasn’t in vain, and his death shed new light about this illness for many of us who have heard about it but never really understood it. God does things that will never know or understand, and I think he fulfilled his purpose in this life and God took him home and he doesn’t have to suffer anymore. May God continue to bless your family, and thanks again for sharing!
August 30th, 2009 at 6:25 pm
F–K YOU DANA.
August 31st, 2009 at 12:20 am
hey watch it u know some pple have da same issue so watch wat u say paul slayton
August 31st, 2009 at 12:21 am
Evan was a beautiful child and was clearly very much loved by his family. My heart goes out to you all. It is a blessing that you have shared Evan’s story because I’m sure it will be helpful to other families.
September 2nd, 2009 at 9:38 pm
Mrs. Dana,
My name is megan. I’ll be 17 on the 17th of September. Three days before that, on the 14th, will be a year since one of my closest suicide attempts. First, let me apologize for the cruel words of some others on here. I see you were only doing the best you could.
I’ve had “problems” since i was 7 years old. I was never quite “child like”. Before I was 11 I’d hurt myself in as many ways as I could think of. My mother brought me to the doctor at age 12 and they told her i was just going through a phase. A phase that never ended.
My older sister Jessica Ann Slayter killed herself on February 18 2001. She was 15 years old.
I was only 7 when this happened. A year before my brother Brandon Barker was 23 and drowned across from my home.
I’m not whining, just speaking of things I’ve gone through. Things that did not cause my illness, but i’m sure that these situations added on to it.
Things never got better…only masked and ignored.
September 14, 2008 i was left home alone. I was 15 at the time and terribly depressed. I took a handful of pills i found in the house and brought a pistol to my room. I have burn marks on my arms still to this day. I gave myself 3rd degree burns that night.
I called my best friend and asked him to be the last voice I heard.
As i put the gun to my temple my phone rang. I tried to ignore it, but it was my best friend. I did not end my life that night…obvioiusly.
I had the scariest conversation with my mother days later. She didn’t belive me. She didn’t want to belive me. I told her i needed help.
I started seeing a doctor in October and was put on Prozac. THey told me i had an adjustment disorder that nothing was really wrong with me.
Things didn’t seem to get better.
On december 9, 2008 I went to school. I gave myself my meds but didn’t have time to take them before i went to school so i brought them with me. Instead of takin out what i needed i brought the entire bottle. At 8:50 am I walked to the back hallway of the Science Dpt. and took 8 of my pills.
I was out of it a little while later. My teacher came into the closest and i told her wht i had done. The rest is a blur realy. It’s almost a year and I am still sketchy on the details. The ambulance was called and I remember waking up in the health center. I was jerking telling them to kill me I didn’t want to live.
I found out later my heart had stopped 3 times.
I was sent to Crossroads Pyschiatric Hospital that night.
I was diagnosed with Major Severe Depressive Disorder. I hven’t been the same sine. I’ve had my episodes from time to time. I want to die sometimes. I have tried even after I got out. It’s not something you just get over like a cold.
It’s hard. Life. . .surviving. . .living is tough.
Today while i was at school i thought about killing myslef because things are so bad. My family (me my mother and sister) have no money, barely any food in the house, my father still has nothing to do with me, my illness just never seems to go away, my best friend is still dead (car accidet) everything just seems wrong. . .but i didn’t do anything today. . .i came home and turned on the tv. Boy Interrupted was on.
There’s a reason for that.
I love you Perry family. Not knowing you personally, but I do love you. Because I understand.
Sincerely,
Megan Elizabeth Slayter